fashion & feelings blog
I'm honored to be the 2020 Ambassador for Cute Kingdom Fashions Inc.
I created this blog with affirmations from my book "A Fresh Start" to empower women worldwide. No matter what you're feeling inside, the most fashionable outfit you can ever wear is confidence!
Fashion & Feelings
Welcome to my fashion and feelings blog! I’m super happy you’re here to join me! Throughout the 14 photos in this blog series, I will be sharing stories with all of you how fashion and feelings can shape our day, and shape our lives. I’ve hand picked a selection of positive affirmations directly from my book “A Fresh Start- 111 Affirmations to Have the Best Year Ever and Create the life you Want”. As the 2020 Cute Kingdom Fashions Ambassador, I help empower women through fashion and affirmations allowing them to live the life they truly deserve and desire. Because let’s face it ladies…how we feel in a gala gown, pencil skirt, sparkly blouse, or black leather pants is very VERY very different than how we feel in our pjs!
In this particular photo, I’m wearing an outfit from The Karen Carrington Ambassador Collection called “Golden Shimmer” I’m at Catch the Moments Studio located in Niagara Falls, Canada where I had to relocate for over a month to produce my talk show Season 6. It’s so beautiful shooting on set here but I must say, a few weeks before I arrived, I was hurting deeply about something in my life. But, the moment I arrived at Catch the Moments, that all dissipated. Immediately I had a sense of tranquility and pure calmness. You know, feelings are extremely fleeting, meaning they come and go. We’re sad one day, happy the next, full of energy one minute, tired the next.
I want you to take a look at the studio address in this pic on the door… it's 4444. I want to observe this number 4444 and let’s also take a closer look at the connection and symbolism with Affirmation #44 from my book A Fresh Start. It says I am not my thoughts and feelings and they don’t have to bring me down”
When a feeling overtakes you, whether it be good or bad, and if you have absolutely no idea what to do, let that feeling go. Dwelling on a temporary fleeting feeling could ruin some of the greatest friendships or moments in your life. People often get preoccupied with worrying about an overwhelming feeling they have, without realizing the power they have within themselves to switch off that feeling off. Feelings can have some powerful effects. Their presence can consume us and that's why it's important to remember that emotions are finicky. They come and go. This means it's crucial to embrace the positive feelings in your life and let go of the negative ones. Inevitably, there will be tough times in your life. I have certainly had my fair share! There have been moments when my heart ached so badly I felt like it was going to fall out of my chest.
For you, there also may be seasons of deep sadness that seem endless. But in those times, don't lose hope. Also, don't let those times define you. Whether these feelings come from loss, failure, or broken relationships, just remember they're temporary. These difficult feelings are unfortunately a part of life. But guess what? They fortunately they don't last forever.
Feelings always come and go, but it is completely up to us to decide what we do with them.
Repeat after me “I am not my thoughts and feelings and they don’t have to bring me down”
In this particular photo, I’m wearing an outfit from The Karen Carrington Ambassador Collection called “Golden Shimmer” I’m at Catch the Moments Studio located in Niagara Falls, Canada where I had to relocate for over a month to produce my talk show Season 6. It’s so beautiful shooting on set here but I must say, a few weeks before I arrived, I was hurting deeply about something in my life. But, the moment I arrived at Catch the Moments, that all dissipated. Immediately I had a sense of tranquility and pure calmness. You know, feelings are extremely fleeting, meaning they come and go. We’re sad one day, happy the next, full of energy one minute, tired the next.
I want you to take a look at the studio address in this pic on the door… it's 4444. I want to observe this number 4444 and let’s also take a closer look at the connection and symbolism with Affirmation #44 from my book A Fresh Start. It says I am not my thoughts and feelings and they don’t have to bring me down”
When a feeling overtakes you, whether it be good or bad, and if you have absolutely no idea what to do, let that feeling go. Dwelling on a temporary fleeting feeling could ruin some of the greatest friendships or moments in your life. People often get preoccupied with worrying about an overwhelming feeling they have, without realizing the power they have within themselves to switch off that feeling off. Feelings can have some powerful effects. Their presence can consume us and that's why it's important to remember that emotions are finicky. They come and go. This means it's crucial to embrace the positive feelings in your life and let go of the negative ones. Inevitably, there will be tough times in your life. I have certainly had my fair share! There have been moments when my heart ached so badly I felt like it was going to fall out of my chest.
For you, there also may be seasons of deep sadness that seem endless. But in those times, don't lose hope. Also, don't let those times define you. Whether these feelings come from loss, failure, or broken relationships, just remember they're temporary. These difficult feelings are unfortunately a part of life. But guess what? They fortunately they don't last forever.
Feelings always come and go, but it is completely up to us to decide what we do with them.
Repeat after me “I am not my thoughts and feelings and they don’t have to bring me down”
Yellow Daffodil
My book cover colors are pink and yellow! My absolute fave colors! Affirmation #32 says "I am patient with my healing process” and in this photo, I’m looking out the window reflecting and feeling healed. I’m at peace in my yellow ruffles and pink heels! Those are my peaceful place. This color combo brings me perfect comfort. But I faced a lot of trauma to get to this place of peace and had many setbacks along the way. At times, I hated sitting with the pain, so I wanted to rush out of it! We all react to trauma in different ways. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to think, feel, or respond, so don’t judge your reactions or those of other people. Remember, your responses are NORMAL reactions to ABNORMAL events.
When we're trying to heal from an argument or a broken heart and also try do a million other things at once, we're slowing down our healing process. We’re impatient, anxious, fearful, desperate, and we’re not in a natural flowing state.
Healing takes time, and you walk that path in your own unique way at your own pace. Not because someone else told you what healing looks like for them, but because your heart showed you what it feels like for you. Be patient with that process. Cry if you have to cry. Go deep and feel what you need to feel. Then release it. But not before you’re ready.
When we're trying to heal from an argument or a broken heart and also try do a million other things at once, we're slowing down our healing process. We’re impatient, anxious, fearful, desperate, and we’re not in a natural flowing state.
Healing takes time, and you walk that path in your own unique way at your own pace. Not because someone else told you what healing looks like for them, but because your heart showed you what it feels like for you. Be patient with that process. Cry if you have to cry. Go deep and feel what you need to feel. Then release it. But not before you’re ready.
Green Goddess
Affirmation #10 says "I grab opportunities with both hands" and this photo I’m grabbing and gripping the couch with not just one hand but with both hands and I’m NOT letting go! Lol! In a world where everyone wants success, only a few grab the amazing opportunities that life gives them. Opportunity always knocks on the door, so I want you to be ready to take full advantage when it falls into your lap. All you have to do is keep your mind open to every opportunity that comes along your way. That job you’re afraid to apply to, that date you’re afraid to show up for because you don’t think the relationship will work, that big chance to move to another country and start life again. You must be ready and have your hands free in order to grasp the chance!
Lady Boss
This is one of my ladyboss office, business meetings playful polka dot outfits with the sheer cape piece around the waist and a bold red shoe with a pop! Polka dots are a fun pattern and always a classic statement look that feels chic without being too serious." And in my business, that’s exactly how I am. Fun, classy, not to serious but always on top of my game. In my best selling book A Fresh Start Affirmation # 98 says "I take calculated risks to grow my profitable business" and as many people may know, I take A LOT of calculated risky risks in my business in my production studio. A LOT. My shows are deep, controversial and the topics are risky. Taking risks is scary and most people tend to avoid risks when possible, because inaction is often safer than action, but most successful people got to where they are because they took risks. Taking the right risks could be the difference between living an ordinary life and living an extraordinary ah-maaaazing life. I’m not saying to gamble all your money away, or not do any research or close your eyes and blindly make massive decisions with zero fact checking. It's important to assess the level of risk by examining the facts. Create a list of the pros and cons and the risks versus benefits. Then, without overthinking…go with your gut and take a leap of faith. But never ever leave out logic. And never ever leave out a hot pair of red shoes!
Coral Reef
Affirmation #89 "I am ok to move on" and that’s exactly what I did years ago when I moved downtown Toronto in a stunning upscale condo steps away from the CN Tower. It was my lifelong dream from childhood that I manifested into a reality. The CN tower is a signature icon of Toronto's city skyline. As I stepped out of my condo, wearing this beautiful coral dress and saw the CN Tower, my heart melted. Every morning, I see this spectacular view and it makes me emotional. Very emotional. I left my hometown of Ottawa to be here. It was such a leap of faith. The CN Tower is a daily reminder of that big move. I had a lot to lose, but so much to gain. No matter how afraid you are to make that bold move, in any area of your life, I want you to repeat the affirmation “I am ok to move on”
Blue Waters
My dream was to live by the waterfront and it came true. Affirmation #43 says “Every breath I inhale calms me”
Water is the source of life. It covers more than 70% of the earth’s surface and makes up nearly 70% of our bodies. The calming effects of water are even greater if we also hear the sounds of water, whether it’s the loud crash of ocean waves hitting the shore or the soft tapping of raindrops on your window sill.
When I need to get away from daily stressors, being by the water always calms me. It’s my favorite place to be. My safe place. I sit by the water each and every day with my picnic lunch, my blanket and my journal. I love the boats, the ducks, the waves, the sails, the wind, the different shades of blues in the water calms me. When you feel stressed, take a deep breath in, slow breath out and repeat "Every breath I inhale calms me”
Water is the source of life. It covers more than 70% of the earth’s surface and makes up nearly 70% of our bodies. The calming effects of water are even greater if we also hear the sounds of water, whether it’s the loud crash of ocean waves hitting the shore or the soft tapping of raindrops on your window sill.
When I need to get away from daily stressors, being by the water always calms me. It’s my favorite place to be. My safe place. I sit by the water each and every day with my picnic lunch, my blanket and my journal. I love the boats, the ducks, the waves, the sails, the wind, the different shades of blues in the water calms me. When you feel stressed, take a deep breath in, slow breath out and repeat "Every breath I inhale calms me”
Angel Wings
I rarely ever wear white! I was always so worry to get it dirty with a small stain and I'll be so annoyed! truth moment, I love how I lookin it buuut...I only wore a white dress 3x times in my life. On my wedding day, (I'm now divorced for almost 10 years) on my book cover and in this pic. Each time, the dress was so super angelic. Affirmation #37 says “I feel my angels holding me” When I need support, I know my angels are all around. This outfit reminds me of the angels that come to my rescue when I’m in need. Angels are our guardians and guides. They are divine help us in this lifetime, brining us messages, guidance and help for our highest good. Asking your angels for help does not require any formal ritual or prayer. Here’s a statement you can use with my affirmation: "I feel my angels holding me. Angels, please bring me the resources, ideas, inspiration and opportunities that can help bring this into reality. Please put me on the minds of people that can help me as well. I love you angels and I know you love me. Thank you for always helping and surrounding me.
Queen Peacock
In my best selling book A Fresh Start Affirmation #11 says “I walk confidently” The peacock bird is stunning and is the epitome of beauty.
Low-confidence can be a result of many factors including fear of the unknown, criticism, being unhappy with personal appearance, feeling unprepared, or lack of knowledge. Often when you lack confidence it is because of what you believe others will think of you. Perhaps others will laugh at us or make fun of us if we make a mistake. Thinking like this can prevent you from doing things you want or need to do because you believe that the consequences are totally embarrassing.
Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out with even greater self-confidence.
Remember, no matter who tries to bring you down in life, know that no one can steal your joy. Always be that power peacock who struts with her feathers held high gracefully and confidently. As you walk into that interview, bank meeting for the loan or into that new business venture meeting, repeat “I walk confidently”
Girl! You got this!!!
Low-confidence can be a result of many factors including fear of the unknown, criticism, being unhappy with personal appearance, feeling unprepared, or lack of knowledge. Often when you lack confidence it is because of what you believe others will think of you. Perhaps others will laugh at us or make fun of us if we make a mistake. Thinking like this can prevent you from doing things you want or need to do because you believe that the consequences are totally embarrassing.
Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out with even greater self-confidence.
Remember, no matter who tries to bring you down in life, know that no one can steal your joy. Always be that power peacock who struts with her feathers held high gracefully and confidently. As you walk into that interview, bank meeting for the loan or into that new business venture meeting, repeat “I walk confidently”
Girl! You got this!!!
Lime Time
Wearing this lime green dress was empowering for me as a mental health advocate. Back in 2007, I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder and the color green is the official color of mental health awareness. It’s also known to restore depleted energy; Green is the earth color of renewal. When you’re feeling down or depressed. Put on a hint of green and try spending the day in nature. Plants, greenery, and nature diminish the ongoing stresses of life restoring us back to a sense of well being. Repeat affirmation #45 from my best selling book “A Fresh Start “I am conquering this illness, I am defeating it steadily each day”
Tunnel Vision
I’m allergic to distractions! I have 100% tunnel vision wearing this outfit in an actual tunnel. I see nothing around me except my goals. My brain cannot properly function in that environment! I walk away from anything that feels toxic in my surroundings. Affirmation #2 says “I can clearly see the new beginnings around me” Chaos, confusion and clutter in our lives blocks our vision . Get clear on exactly what you want in life. Remove all the distractions. Get that tunnel vision. Don’t let anyone or anything derail you, Staying focussed without being distracted is one of the key strengths of successful people. This has the amazing benefits of enhancing effectiveness, providing greater clarity, improving decision making, inspiring creativity, increasing output and significantly improving the likelihood of achieving goals.
Glitter Glam
Feeling depleted? Exhausted? Drained? Affirmation # 62 says “I am Strong” I encourage you to repeat this affirmation everyday in the mirror. Always let your golden glitter shine, don’t dull down your shimmer. The misconception about strong women is that we are can be threatening or intimidating. But we are none of those things. If there is something you’re passionate about, stop questioning and relying on the guidance of the people around you, and listen to your heart. Too often people try to deter us from our deepest wishes out of jealousy or intimidation. Sometimes even those that love us. fear us, so unintentionally they hold us back. Finding your inner strength may not happen overnight, but you can work at it each day by repeating the affirmation and truly believing it wholeheartedly that no matter what anyone else says, you are strong. You don’t have to be strong to everybody all the time. If your kids, friends, boss, family are always needing you and you’re tugged in every direction, remember, take some time for self-care. Just relax. Do nothing. Just breathe. And that too, is an example of “I AM Strong!”
Red Dragonfly
This outfit empowers me to fly without limits. Just like the powerful yet elegant dragonfly. Here’s a fun fact for you! Dragonflies are born in or on the water, where they exist in this stage for months or even years before they become adult dragonflies – then they turn into the beautiful flying insects with clear patterned wings. Did you know that dragonflies only live as adults for a short period of time? This reminds us to seize the day and live in the present. Don’t put off to tomorrow what you can do today. Affirmation #101 says “I give myself permission to start living my future now” This lifestyle symbolizes and exemplifies the virtue of living IN the moment and living life to the fullest and going after your dreams without any regrets. By living in the moment you are aware of who you are, where you are, what you are doing, what you want, what you don’t and make informed choices on a moment-to-moment basis. This ability lets you live your life without regrets like the beautiful dragonfly.
Pink Ballerina
I'm courageously looking ahead and the soft sheer cape is flowing back. If your mind focuses on the negative things that had happened in the past, your life will move in a negative direction. Your life moves in the direction of your dominant thoughts, so whatever you set your mind and focus on is what your life and emotions will follow. Your past does not exist any longer but your today is alive and your tomorrow is yet to be born.
Start to recycle all those past negative thoughts and replace them with Affirmation #91 from my book which says “Today I will only look forward, not back” If you wake up every day thinking and saying things like that loud and boldly, then you are getting a hold of it. Before you know it, no one will be able to use your past against you because you are starting to actually let go. Welcome your today and prepare for a better tomorrow. Block your thoughts from thinking about your past. It’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where you are forever the victim of the other person’s actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life. You cannot become a new person if you keep focusing on the old person. Thinking about what is dead will prevent you from enjoying what is alive. Do not bother thinking about fixing what can never be fixed. We all made mistakes in the past but we learn from them and move on.
Start to recycle all those past negative thoughts and replace them with Affirmation #91 from my book which says “Today I will only look forward, not back” If you wake up every day thinking and saying things like that loud and boldly, then you are getting a hold of it. Before you know it, no one will be able to use your past against you because you are starting to actually let go. Welcome your today and prepare for a better tomorrow. Block your thoughts from thinking about your past. It’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where you are forever the victim of the other person’s actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life. You cannot become a new person if you keep focusing on the old person. Thinking about what is dead will prevent you from enjoying what is alive. Do not bother thinking about fixing what can never be fixed. We all made mistakes in the past but we learn from them and move on.
Golden Shimmer
Did you know YOU have the power to increase your wealth and to transition to financial freedom just by trusting, having faith and 100% believing it will come? One great way to address any limiting beliefs about money is through the use of affirmations. I want to focus on Affirmation #77 which says “I attract incredible opportunities to increase my wealth and my life”
Many people have a poor relationship with money. They have trouble manifesting money and wealth into their lives.
The truth is that financial success starts in the mind and the number one thing holding many people back is their belief system concerning wealth and money.
Repeating this affirmation is one of the most effective ways to change your beliefs about money into a belief system that will open you up to the prosperity that is all around you. What you say to yourself becomes what you believe, and what you truly believe becomes reality. This outfit called “Golden Shimmer” represents golden wealth. You also have the power to manifest your pot of gold too!
Many people have a poor relationship with money. They have trouble manifesting money and wealth into their lives.
The truth is that financial success starts in the mind and the number one thing holding many people back is their belief system concerning wealth and money.
Repeating this affirmation is one of the most effective ways to change your beliefs about money into a belief system that will open you up to the prosperity that is all around you. What you say to yourself becomes what you believe, and what you truly believe becomes reality. This outfit called “Golden Shimmer” represents golden wealth. You also have the power to manifest your pot of gold too!
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